• Amber Craft

Emotional Intelligence is YOUR Choice

Are you emotionally intelligent or emotionally stupid? May is Mental Health Awareness month, which is the perfect time to start chatting about emotional intelligence, also known as EI or EQ.

What is emotional intelligence?

The capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically. According to the American psychologist who helped popularize EQ, Daniel Goleman, there are 5 keys elements;

1. Self-awareness.

2. Self-regulation.

3. Motivation.

4. Empathy.

5. Social skills

This week we’ll focus on emotional intelligence and the connection with our mental health. Specifically, self-awareness. You don’t know what you don’t know. It’s time to start looking for your blind spots in your mental health so that you can live fully well.

Emotional intelligence is critical in your mental health, mental resiliency, mental stability, and overall well-being. So why not choose to Do Yourself Well and become aware of yourself and grow.

Resiliency is the ability to recover quickly from difficulties. We WILL have challenges and difficulties in life. Promise!! It’s up to you to decide how you will receive, perceive, and respond to life’s growth opportunities.


“If you are tuned out of your


you will be poor at reading them in


Daniel Goleman


You have choice in your life. When you choose to be in control of your emotion, you have greater control of your life. However, many people ignore the choice they have in their emotion. Which creates a cycle of chaos of survival. BUT, if you choose to be aware and in control of your emotion, you can choose to thrive rather than simply survive.

Mind/Body Connection- If you live in chronic chaos, your body releases stress hormones that cause physical distress and disease, causing worsening mental health…that’s the focus for next week. You must be self-aware not only of your emotional intelligence for you mind, but also your body. If we chronically function in stress, we cannot live well. If we don’t live well, we cannot be mentally well.

If you are believer in Christ, remember that you are not promised an easy life. In fact, God promises to transform us into the person he designed us to be in His time.

“Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary; they will walk and not be faint.” Isaiah 40:31



It’s time to decide for yourself!

Take action!

Live the life of thriving YOU were designed for!


Do Yourself Well & put it into practice

1. Daily Self-Evaluation- WRITE IT DOWN. Emotional intelligence can be improved with practice and reflection. You must be willing to be truthful with yourself. Stop lying to yourself and blaming others. Your emotion is your emotion. Nobody else can dictate your emotion.

WRITE it down daily. This allows you to see your progress as you continue to grow and progress in EQ.

Reflect on the emotions you have each day.

Why did you have them?

How did that emotion, affect your day?

How did you respond to those in your path while you were deep into emotion?

2. Ask for feedback- DON’T BE OFFENDED. Emotional unintelligence, AKA emotional stupidity, is likely a blind spot. Hopefully you’re not intentionally ignoring your emotional intelligence and mental health. It’s critical that you ask somebody that is willing to speak truth in love and they, themselves have emotional intelligence. Your feelings WILL likely be hurt. It’s another choice you have to accept it without offering excuses, rationales, or defensiveness so that you can grow and thrive in your life..

Add this to your journal, notebook, or wherever you’re writing it down.




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